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Believing is (1) to accept or regard something as true; (2) to accept the truth of what someone says about you; (3) to have a specific opinion: to think.

Then there’s the feeling of being sure that a person or thing exists and is true or trustworthy. If trust is broken, it’s easy to lose our ability to believe. But what happens when it’s gone and you no longer accept things as true? Who or what do we trust? Maybe it’s the illusion of a life that you fabricated. Maybe it’s the going-nowhere-slow job. Maybe you put your faith in something or someone that was not worthy of your attention to begin with. Many women don’t recognize when they are in a toxic relationship, but more often, women don’t want to admit it, particularly with themselves.

Coming to this realization of lost trust can be very painful. It can leave us feeling depressed and dejected. Once trust is gone, we can feel lost and isolated–especially if we don’t want others to know our situation. But things can turn around quickly when we activate the power that comes when we believe.

“When we believe in ourselves, it can help us achieve our goals, manifest our dreams, and increase our well-being. But the flip side is also true. Lack of belief in ourselves means we are less likely to act, to change, or to push to make things better. In fact, when we expect we will fail, we are actually more likely to fail.” (Bénabou & Tirole, 2002).

Proverbs 23:7 tells us that “As a (wo)man thinketh in his(her) heart is (s)he....”. The movie The Secret tells us: “What you think about, you bring about.” Everything you have in your life results from your belief in yourself and the belief that it’s possible.

Belief in yourself means having faith in your own capabilities and includes things like self-worth, self-confidence, self-trust, autonomy, and environmental mastery. We can't really go anywhere without it. No matter how hard you push yourself forward, you'll be blocked if your thoughts, attitudes, and actions don’t fully line up with your desires. That means you must be able to trust yourself to do what you say you'll do, knowing those efforts will cause your desired outcomes. Do you trust yourself?

Learning how to believe in yourself will open up endless possibilities in your life. We respond to what the brain—based on previous experience—expects to happen next. In fact, the mind is such a powerful instrument; it can deliver literally everything you want through the power of positive expectation.

Belief Self-Assessment Questions

Self-worth is the sense that you have value as a human being.

  1. Do you value yourself as a human being?

  2. Do you agree that you're no worse than any other person?

Self-confidence is about having a positive attitude toward your abilities, qualities, and judgment.

  1. Do you feel good about your skills, strengths, and abilities?

  2. Do you feel good about your personal qualities?

  3. Do you feel good about your judgment and decision-making?

Self-trust is faith that you can rely on yourself.

  1. Can you rely on yourself?

  2. Can you trust that you'll do what you say you'll do?

Autonomy is feeling able to choose and direct your own behavior.

  1. Do you feel free to do what you want to do?

  2. Do you believe no one can stop you from reaching your dreams?

Environmental mastery is your belief that your efforts will result in the changes you desire.

  1. When you take action, do you believe that it will lead to the results you desire?

  2. Do you believe that you're able to get the things you want?

If there are questions where you answered "no", leaned towards "no" or felt you had no response, they are likely the ones that provide the best opportunities for you to develop your ability to believe in yourself. Take some time to think about how you might shift some self-beliefs to create space for believing in yourself more.

We have been taught to believe that FAIL stands for “Forget About It, Loser!” But what if we choose to see it differently? What if we looked at it as the “First Attempt At Learning” or “Forever Acquiring Important Lessons”?

Before she could FAIL, she had to TRY! And in order to try she had to BELIEVE she could do it!

She believed she could, SO SHE DID! Go do it sis!


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